”To my grandchildren I may not see you every day to talk to you every day but I think of you and love you every day.”
Raising Our Kids Near Their Grandparents Is The Greatest Gift We Could Ever Give Them
Grandparents have always played an important role in family life, but in recent decades, many have had greater responsibility for their grandchildren because of changes in society and families.
They are the major providers of child care for preschool children, especially toddlers and babies when both parents are in the workforce. They also help parents with school-age children by taking care of them during school vacations and picking them up from school.
Grandparents surround their grandchildren with a very special loved — one that is more patient, fun and accepting, and less critical than the one kids receive from their parents. This kind of love imparts a feeling of comfort, security, and safety. This sense of belonging is very important during a kid’s adolescence when they have conflicts with their parents or feel like they do not fit in at school.
That’s why many kids develop strong relationships with their grandparents and are grateful for their support and love.
Kids who have strong relationships with their grandparents are more likely to stay out of trouble; have better performance in school; demonstrate more prosocial behaviors such as generosity and kindness, and have less depression and anxiety than those that do not.
Kids Raised To Be Close To Their Grandparents Suffer Lower Rates Of Depression
From 1985 to 2004, over 350 grandparents and over 350 of their adult grandchildren were interviewed as part of an ongoing study. The study found that children who have a strong emotional attachment to their grandma and grandpa have far lower rates of depression in adulthood than those who don’t develop that bond.
In fact, the grandparents involved in the study who had a close relationship with their grandkids were less depressed as well. Another study revealed that 11 to 16-year-old kids who had a good relationship with their grandparents were also less prone to depression.
Kids Raised To Have A Strong Bond With Grandparents Have Higher Emotional Intelligence
Can your children control their emotions? Do they have a lot of friends and generally get along with others? These are signs of emotional intelligence or EQ. EQ is an important trait from the playground to the boardroom. Kind, likable people do better in life. What does this have to do with grandparents?
A study at Pace University investigated. The researcher examined 186 adults. She found that the adults, who were close to their grandparents as kids had higher EQs as adults. What do you think about that finding? How do your parents encourage your children to be kinder or more sensitive to others?
If you think about it, this makes sense. Grandparents might be dealing with health issues or struggling to understand how to use the remote control. Children learn patience and empathy by spending time with them. How did your grandparents make you a better person?
Good for Grandparents Too!
Grandkids are not the only ones who benefit. As U.S. News & World Report documents, grandparents are less depressed, calmer, and happier when they spend time with their grandchildren. The next time your mother or father complains about having to babysit, say you’re just trying to boost their mood!
Caregiving grandparents can also live longer. Elderly people tend to lose their friends over time. Being retired can mean long hours sitting on the couch watching daytime television. Grandchildren bring a new life with them. Studies have shown that grandparents live longer when they spend more time with their grandchildren. Talk about amazing!
A Good Grandparent-Grandchild Relationship Can Impact Longevity
One of the surprising results of research into the grandchild-grandparent relationship is its impact on how long a grandparent will live. According to the study, those with greater involvement with their grandkids actually lived longer on average than those who weren’t.
This was especially true of those who looked after their grandchildren on a regular basis when compared to those who didn’t babysit their grandchildren regularly. Research of 500 grandparents in the 70+ age range showed that those who didn’t frequently babysit their grandchildren were at greater risk of death than those who did.
Those conducting the study attributed the greater longevity of involved grandparents to the mental stimulation and the feeling of being needed that grandparents who watch their kids tend to experience compared to those who don’t. Rather than sending them to an early grave by them by wearing them out, it would seem that extra time with the grandkids can actually help grandparents live longer!
– Grandparents can say things parents cannot.
– They are great storytellers
– Grandparents use their past parenting experience in interactions with their grandchildren
– They can give undivided attention to their grandchildren
The bottom line is that the grandparent-grandchild relationship is one of the most significant of all human relationships. It’s one that, under normal circumstances, should be encouraged and celebrated.